Lahore: Pakistani model and dancer, Mathera is known for her down-to-earth attitude and direct manner. In a recent episode of a private TV channel program, she talked about raising her sons — and the challenges involved in this process. Her advice about dealing with teenagers has attracted attention among parents who are now discussing it as an alternative strategy towards effective parenting.
The Adolescent Years
Mathera put more emphasis on understanding physiological changes that take place in adolescents. She said that at puberty children do experience hormonal imbalances which significantly affect their behaviors.
According to Mathira “When kids are reaching teenage years, there are some behaviors that parents should overlook.” This phase is characterized by mood swings caused by changing levels of hormones like testosterone and estrogen; it leads to more anger, stubbornness, or irritability than usual shown by them. And so these actions should be seen as just symptoms related to some inward modifications happening during those times but not always necessarily bad manners to deal with our children when they reach such ages; we must handle them gently instead.
Errors And Miscalculations
One important point raised by Mathera was how one can go about handling mistakes made by teenagers which cannot be avoided at all costs. “Some mistakes should be neglected at this age,” she recommended because knowing and forgiving such small wrongs can make the parent-child relationship healthier. Rather than being too strict or always scolding them, parents should try guiding them through turbulent times together with their kids.
Personal Accountability in Parenting’
Mathira also stressed upon personal accountability of parents towards bringing up their children saying. “We have to train our kids; what method will be used depends upon us”. This statement highlights motherhood or fatherhood as a key educational institution for any individual. Moral development is where she learns right from wrong things.
In her view, external influences may contribute to shaping an individual’s life. According to Mathiras good manners should first come from within homes followed by schools. When should parents get involved? Also, how do they take part? These are the questions to ask when parenting teens with values but no good behavior.
Setting up A Supportive Surrounding
Creating an understanding and supportive environment at home is important during adolescence. She said that parents must always keep communication lines open so that kids can freely share. Their feelings without being judged or punished.
According to her “Teenagers need someone who listens” because through this approach conflicts. Will be resolved amicably besides creating trust between parents and children which is very healthy for any person’s growth. Mathira believes that when teenagers realize that their mother or father is always there to help them out. They tend to overcome challenges easily.
